One can try to ask their advice and their thoughts about understanding, problems which arise among other children. Some such children respond well to being given some responsibilities, not merely chores around the house, but being asked and expected to contribute solutions to problems that arise. But increasing evidence suggests that the influence of the peer group consisting of the other children, can often be greater than that of the parents. There may have been some bad role models in their absent parents, from whom they may not have learned useful lessons about getting on with other people. There can be value in frankly discussing the situation with them, that there are limits on what you can do, but no limit to your love and caring for them that while it'd be marvellous if they could return to a happy home, such a home isn't there to return to, so it is your task - and theirs - to try to make the best of the situation, and to make it as appy as possible for them and yourselves. It's hard to give broad advice in the sort of situations you describe, because so much could depend on the results of a proper personal assessment of the boys. As a general point, it would be worth exploring, perhaps through your church or some similar group ( Lions, Rotary, etc ) whether it isn't possible to find a child mpsychiatrist / psychologist or a general psychiatrist / psychologist, who would consider volunteering services of regular advice at the kinderhuis, so such problems could be dealt with more routinely and before major problems arise. By the nature of such work, you gather troubled kids, who could be hard to handle individually, let alone as a group. Hulp is ook nie regtig by die welsyn beskikbaar nie, omdat die kind net as 'n nommer gesien word, en die ouers as die slegte kliente in die verhaal.įirstly, congratulations for the excellent work you are doing. Ek voel partykeer asof ek wil moed opgee omdat ek nie raad weet nie. Ons kinderhuis funksioneer ook as 'n 'regte ouerhuis - waar die kinders soos ons eie behandel word, omdat dit nie 'n groot plek is nie. Wat kan ons doen - behalwe liefde gee wat ons buitendien doen - om die lewe vir hom makliker te maak. Maar dit dingetjie verlang regtig baie na sy eie ouerhuis. Ons is regtig baie lief vir hom, en dit is eers die afgelope klein rukkie wat dit lyk asof hy homself oopmaak teenoor my man. Hy verkwalik my, my man en die maatskaplike werkster vir alles wat verkeerd geloop het. gee nie aandag in die klas nie en is kwaai met die juffrou en die maatjies. Nou begin hy steel en lieg en is onmoontlik stout by die skool. Alhoewel hy in die dorp woon, was hy amper 2 jaar gelede hier by die kinders. Sy rolmodel is sy pappa, wat regtig nie die wonderlike benaming van 'pappa' verdien nie. Wat nou? Hoe maak ons dinge reg wat ons nie veroorsaak het nie.ĭie kleiner seuntjie is nou 6. Hulle is baie lief vir hulle pappa, maar omdat hy in die gevangenis is, is dit onmoontlik vir gereelde kontak.

Hulle is verskriklik aggressief, verkleineer mekaar en die ander kinders, en wanneer hulle in 'n geveg betrokke raak (die 2 boeties) lyk dit asof hulle nie wil ophou voordat die ander een ernstig seergekry het nie. Twee van hulle is boeties met presies dieselfde gedragspatroon. Ons het 'n privaat kinderhuis met onder andere drie seuns uit verskillende families.

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